Tips for Youth

Healthy Relationships

What is a healthy relationship? A healthy relationship is based on trust and respect.
It’s when…

  • You feel safe
  • You are able to express your thoughts and feelings
  • You listen to each other
  • You feel like you can be yourself
  • You enjoy spending time together
  • You trust each other
  • You are there for each other
  • You try and help one another during hard times
  • You can have different opinions and interests
  • You can compromise, apologize and talk things out
  • You can say “No” to things you don’t want to do
  • You don’t have to spend all your time together
  • In a healthy relationship, you feel valued, respected, safe and free to be yourself.


What is an unhealthy relationship?

In unhealthy relationships, you…

  • Are not able to be yourself
  • Are scared to disagree
  • Feel fearful and threatened
  • Feel isolated and alone
  • Feel the person doesn’t respect when you say “no”
  • Are hurt physically
  • Are hurt sexually
  • Are being blamed for his/her behaviour
  • Are being yelled at all the time, constantly criticized, often feeling embarrassed and humiliated
  • Feel that s/he is jealous, possessive and controlling
  • Are being lied to
  • Are being told that you are wrong, stupid, crazy, or worthless
  • Feel you have to change yourself in order to make the relationship work… please, get help!

Getting Help

In an emergency, always call 911.

If you or a friend is experiencing any warning signs of an unhealthy relationship, get help! Talk to an adult you trust (parents, teacher, guidance counsellor, doctor). If you can’t find and adult to talk to, you can contact:

Kids Help Phone

Assaulted Women’s Helpline

Justice for Children & Youth

If you’re concerned that you or a child/youth you know is being abused, contact your local child protection agency or the police.

To find a child protection agency in Ontario visit:

To find a police service in Ontario visit:

Other Resources

Love is not abuse

Love is Respect

Sexuality and U

That’s Not Cool

Planned Parenthood – Info for Teens